Disruption, Incivility, and Bullying Behaviors. What’s the Difference?

Disruptive behavior, bullying, incivility, disrespectful behavior, etc. all describe basically the same thing – bad behaviors that should never occur in healthcare. Although similar, there are subtle but clear differences. Disruptive behavior Disruption means to separate or create a divide. Common words used alongside disruption are “wild, unruly, or undisciplined”. When we think of disruption in healthcare, we tend to think of someone or something that is stopping the flow of care. This disruption can be a person (patient or coworker) or a situation (unexpected admission or additional duty). However, in the context of disruptive BEHAVIORS, we can easily...

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3 Steps to Stop a Bullying Boss

Jackie became the target of a bullying boss after just 3 months on her new job, working in the Emergency Room at a Level I Trauma Hospital. Jackie wasn’t a new nurse but this was her first time working in a city hospital and therefore, she knew the people would be intense. At first, she didn’t recognize she was experiencing various forms of bullying (public criticism and name calling, threatening disciplinary action to the point of termination, and being overly critical). Jackie thought it was normal behavior considering that she worked in the Emergency Department where stress levels are...

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Why Humans Choose a Career in Nursing

Although the human body fascinated me, I never thought about becoming a nurse. I wanted to be a physician. I wanted to become an OB-GYN physician and deliver babies. That’s all I ever wanted to do. So at the age of 17, I enrolled in a pre-med program at a large university. But then life got in the way. At the age of 19, I found myself pregnant. We got married and I had a miscarriage. While on summer break, I got pregnant again and because of complications, I quit school. Two years and 2 kids later, I found...

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You Already Have the Tools for Nursing Success

When my husband and I were planning to purchase a new car, we really had no idea what make and model we wanted. All we knew was that we wanted an SUV. Our family and friends gave us their opinion (Hondas, Mitsubishi, etc) but we still weren’t sure. We decided to visit a Mazda dealer because the sales person was a friend of our neighbor. She trusted him and that was more important to us than the car. He recommended a Mazda CX5. And we bought it. I never heard of one or seen one but as soon as...

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3 Ways to Protect Yourself from the “Crabby” Nurses

If you catch a bunch of crabs and put them into a basket, something interesting occurs. One crab will try to escape by climbing up the walls of the basket. However, when the other crabs see one of their own trying to escape, they pull that crab back down. They will exert great effort to stop that ONE crab from escaping even to the point of breaking off the crab’s legs and eventually killing the crab! Nurses do the same thing to each other. I’ve talked to many nurses who try to downplay their accomplishments because they know their...

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Nurse Bully Profile Series: The Bitter Nurse

Over the last few weeks, I’ve been profiling some of the most common types of bully nurses to help nurses clearly identify common behaviors that some nurse bullies display AND to take action against them. We’ve discuss the following nurse bully profiles: • The Super Nurse • The Sorority Nurse • and, The Deadly Viper Nurse The Bitter Nurse is the last nurse bully profile we will explore. Nurse Bully Profile Series: The Bitter Nurse Lynn won the Daisy Award and was so excited!! It was a great honor to win this award at her hospital. Her manager made...

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Targets, Witnesses, and Nurse Bullies

Nurse to nurse bullying is a problem. Nurse bullying is pervasive, destructive, and doesn’t belong in a profession dedicated to caring and compassion. Although nurse bullying is as old as our profession, it appears to be getting worse. Every day of my life a nurse reaches out to me for help and more and more new nurses are quitting due to the bullying behavior of their coworkers. Of the new nurses who quit their first job, 60% cite bullying behavior as the primary reason. Nursing schools are pumping out a ton of new nurses but if they don’t stay,...

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Learn How to Stop Nurse Bullies with the Nurse Bully Proofing Program

60% of all new nurses quit their first job within the first six months due to the bad behavior of their coworkers. 48% of all newly graduating nurses are afraid that they’re going to become the target of workplace bullying. Every day of my life, a nurse reaches out to me asking for help. We have serious problems and we need serious solutions. Stop Nurse Bullies I can help. I’ve developed a program to help students and newly graduated nurses to protect and bully-proof themselves before they start their first job. My new Nurse Bully-Proofing Program is a start...

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3 Rs for Nurses: Effectively Care for Patients.

In the 25 years I’ve been a nurse, I come to realize that for nurses to effectively care for patients and leave work feeling good about the work they do, we need 3 Rs for Nurses: Resources, Recognition, and Respect In this post, I will share how having the right resources can make all the difference in whether or not we can do our jobs well. RESOURCES A few years ago, I took a leap of faith and went back to the bedside. I worked just a few days per month on a unit that I thought would be...

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5 Things I’ve Learned About Nurse Bullies

I’ve spent the last 25 years as a nurse and have witnessed bullying behavior in every role I’ve held. As a new nurse working at the bedside (I was tortured by my preceptor), a homecare nurse (testing new employees and watching them drown), an educator (withholding information…’because I have tenure!!!’), and even at the executive level (major covert sabotage!) – I’ve experienced or witnessed every form of bullying. Nurse bullies are alive and well, exist in every role, and are present at every level. I got to the point where I was no longer willing to accept nurse bullying...

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